Gratitude Sunday – September 7, 2014

For almost five years, I have lived 2000 miles away from my children and grandchildren.  While I love spending this season of my life in Florida with Hubby, I miss the times our family came together to support one another.

Yesterday was one of those times.  It was the first soccer game of the season for our youngest granddaughter, Cupcake.

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I am grateful to her cousin, CJ, our family’s “soccer superstar,” and the other family members who came out to support Cupcake.

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Also, I am grateful to my son (Cupcake’s father) and youngest daughter (CJs mother) for the photos and their blow-by-blow report on the game.  Cupcake scored a goal, WHOOPEE!!

Police Brutality: Current Thoughts and Past Memories

As a 72-year-old, African-American and SeasonedSistah, I write this post to share current thoughts and past memories about Police Brutality after reading The Seeker’s Dungeon Prompt:

“In many countries where guns are not legal the police also don’t carry guns themselves — only the military does.  In America because guns are so widespread, we couldn’t even conceptualize an unarmed police force.  But now, with the full militarization of the police, do you think it has gone too far?  Do you feel scared when you see the cop strapping a gun while waiting for coffee in line next to you at the Starbucks?  What is your relationship with the police and how do you think your race has colored that?  Has race colored your perception of police brutality.”

 

CURRENT THOUGHTS

Full militarization of police departments

In my lifetime, an unarmed police force is highly unlikely; but, I do feel the  militarization of police departments diminishes our perception that they are here to serve and protect us.

Do you feel scared when you see the cop strapping a gun while waiting for coffee in line next to you at the Starbucks?

My own fear and distrust of police escalated when I viewed the television news footage of the police descending on Ferguson, Missouri:

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After viewing this, I was left with the impression that the police officer’s role has changed from “protect and serve” to “fight and battle.”  

However, I don’t personally feel threatened when I see a police officer carrying a holstered gun.  Because, my age bracket, 72, does not meet their racial profiling protocol.  At least, I believe this is the case.

What is your relationship with the police and how do you think your race has colored that.

After, the many questionable killings of African-American men by police officers throughout the country, I fear for my son and three grandsons if they were to have an encounter with the police.

PAST MEMORIES

Full militarization of police departments

In the South, during the Civil Rights Movement, the police did not have militarized equipment.  On television, I watched law enforcement officers approach peaceful protesters with looks of hate on their faces to “fight and battle” the enemies.  Their purpose in being there was definitely not to “protect and serve” the non-violent protesters in their fight to gain equal rights for African-Americans in America.

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Do you feel scared when you see the cop strapping a gun while waiting for coffee in line next to you at the Starbucks?

As a child, I feared law enforcement officers, especially in the South.  This stemmed from listening to my elders tell stories about racist and inhumane acts against African-Americans perpetrated by law enforcement officers in Mississippi.

It was this fear that caused many African-Americans to drive at night when traveling in the South.  They didn’t want to meet law enforcement officers on the highway or in small towns.  The common belief was that law enforcement officers targeted African-American travelers in newer automobiles with northern license plates.  And, when stopped, they faced trumped-up charges, heavy fines, racial harassment, beatings; and, sometimes even jail sentences.

What is your relationship with the police and how do you think your race has colored that?

In 1978, my father’s death was ruled a suicide based on information provided by a police officer and his brother who said they saw the suicide.

This is the real story, as reported years later on January 24, 2007, in the Chicago Reader titled “The Good Cop – Frank Laverty.

The author, John Conroy, describes Detective Laverty, as the “Chicago police detective, who did the right things and paid for it for years.”

It’s an eight-page article, but several paragraphs are about Detective Laverty’s  investigation of my father’s death:

“One summer morning in 1978 Laverty was ordered to notify the family of Hamp Burks, a janitor, had committed suicide the night before in a tavern on 103rd Street,  The paperwork, written by an Area Two detective, said Burks had grabbed the gun of Chicago police sergeant Henry Cooper, who was also in the bar, and shot himself in the head.  “I don’t know why the midnight crew can’t make their own damn notifications.”  Laverty told me, “but I went over to make the notifications by myself.”

Laverty, however, also dropped by the tavern.  He found witnesses who said the sergeant, a 25-year veteran whose brother owned the place, had executed the janitor.  At first Laverty thought the suicide report must have been a mistake made by a detective who didn’t know better, but he later concluded that the detective had given the sergeant a pass.  “I locked (Cooper) up,” he said, “It was hard to make it stick.”

Cooper was convicted in January 1980 and sentenced to 20 years.  Not long after Laverty was looking at a homicide victim in a hospital when a sergeant told him he wished it was Laverty on the slab, “because I locked up Henry Cooper and he was their favorite.  He was the corruption king of the Fifth District.”  Laverty realized he’d made enemies he didn’t know.

I was estranged from my father at the time of his death.  Along with my stepbrother, we made the funeral arrangements.  And, I left Chicago immediately after his burial.  At the time, I chose not to receive information during the investigation; but I was informed when Mr. Cooper was found guilty and sentenced to twenty years.

Mr. Cooper was an African-American and Detective Frank Laverty an Irish American.  On one hand, Mr. Cooper relied on the code of silence to save him from a murder charge.  And on the other, Detective Laverty broke the code of silence and did the right thing.

Today, as in the past, I do not trust the police to do the right thing.

I believe, many police officers bring racial bias and hatred into the workplace, including some who are African-Americans.

Also, I believe, like Detective Laverty,  there are police officers who, philosophically, do not agree with this code of silence; but, unlike Detective Laverty, they lack the courage to break the code.

 

Gratitude Sunday – August 31, 2014

My First Rocking Chair

Today, I am grateful for gifting me — my first rocking chair.

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My First Rocking Chair

I visited my grandparents, as a child, every summer in Mississippi.  On their front porch, sat four rocking chairs.  One, reserved for my Grandfather; and, the other three were on a first come-first rock basis.  I liked to read and listen to the sounds made by the rocker as I rocked on the wooden floor.

Love of the rocking chair resurfaced in my mid-fifties.  While I didn’t buy a rocking chair, I couldn’t bypass a rocking chair at a Cracker Barrel Restaurant, furniture store, or an airport without sitting down and enjoying a rock or two.

For the past five years, I enjoyed rocking for seven straight days in rocking chairs on the front porch of the house we rent for our Mother-Daughter Vacations in Martha Vineyards

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Eldest Daughter in Rocking Chair at Martha’s Vineyard

There are only two rocking chairs on the front porch in Martha’s Vineyard.  Both daughters enjoy the rocking chairs, but when I am present —  one rocking chair is for Mama.   Like, my grandfather, I appreciate my rocking chair privilege.  I view it as one of the many gifts of love from my daughters.

After returning from vacation this year, I didn’t want to wait another year to rock in the chairs at the rental house in Martha’s Vineyard or the rocking chairs at the Boston Airport.

Also, I didn’t want to rely on random rocks in public places for the next year.  So, I gifted ME a rocking chair for reading and relaxing throughout the year.

Since I was not able to find a rocking chair locally to coordinate with the furniture on our lanai, I ordered one through the internet.   It’s perfect.  All I need to find is a seat cushion.

I can’t close this post without expressing gratitude to Hubby for assembling my rocking chair.  (Side Note — Maybe, after reading this, he will assemble my new potting table delivered this past week and is still boxed up in the foyer.)

Most of all, I am grateful to God for his unconditional love, which has opened my life up to experiencing self-love.

July Vacation Days: Happiness in the Presence of Children

Today, I sit in the comfort of our home filled with spaces where I go for solitude, stillness, and serenity; and, I am grateful for this restful and peaceful environment.

However, fond memories linger of the time spent this summer with laughing, happy, and active children. 

Within two months, I went on three trips:

  • Wisconsin:  Four Days – Grandson’s 8th Grade Graduation
  • Wisconsin:  Five Days – July 4th Family Celebration
  • Massachusetts:  Seven Days – Mother-Daughter Vacation in Martha’s Vineyard

This placed a heavy burden on our credit card.  But, during these visits, I was uplifted in the presence of my family and friends; but most of all the children.

In a little over two months, I will celebrate my 73rd birthday.  During this last season of life, I value the time spent with loved ones.  To me, it outweighs money.  Hubby might disagree.  Okay, let’s be honest, he does.   In past years, when I go with the girls to Martha’s Vineyard, he visits our son in Milwaukee.  This year, after the first two visits to Milwaukee, he stayed at home.

My Cherished Vacation Photos

Throughout the year, I will visit my Vacation 2014 Photo Albums.  I will reminisce about the days filled with “Happiness in The Presence of Children.

“When children come together to play and laugh, they are surrounded in clouds of happiness.  And, these same clouds will expand to surround those of us who are privileged to be in their presence.”  (SeasonedSistah2)

 

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“Children at once accept joy and happiness with quick familiarity, being themselves naturally all happiness and joy. ” (Victor Hugo)
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“Every child is a different kind of flower, and all together make this world a beautiful garden.” (Unknown)
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“We find delight in the beauty and happiness of children that makes the heart too big for the body. ” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

 

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“There’s nothing more contagious than the laughter of young children; it doesn’t even have to matter what they’re laughing about.” (Cris Jami)
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“Children make you want to start life over.” (Muhammad Ali)
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“I just love listening to the laughter.” (Simon Pegg)
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“A child’s smile is like a ray of sunshine on a cloudy day.” (Unknown)
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“Children are one of the greatest lessons in happiness, constantly challenging us to enjoy the moment as the next one will not be the same.” (Unknown)

 

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“Childhood is the most beautiful of all seasons.” (Unknown)
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“When you feel yourself unhappy, look at a smiling child, you will feel happy again. ” (Mehmet Murat Ilday)

 

 

 

 

Gratitude Sunday, August 24, 2014

Hubby’s Random Act of Kindness

I am grateful to Hubby for the gift of this 24″ computer screen.

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I no longer have to squint, lean forward, or move the keyboard closer to proofread and edit.  Now, less stress; and, I lean back, relax and let the fingers flow across the keyboard.   It’s a good thing.

Grateful to Hubby for his Random Act of Kindness.

August 2014: Mother-Daughter Vacation in Martha’s Vineyard

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Chronic Pain flare-up

Despite the fact that weeks before this scheduled trip, I was dealing with a pain flare-up in the right knee; I was going on the annual Mother-Daughter Vacation in Martha’s Vineyard.

I have struggled with chronic pain since 1993 related to diagnosed conditions of Rheumatoid Arthritis and Fibromyaglia.  Over the years, I developed various self-management tools to control the pain levels.  However, my bone-on-bone knee pain needed either an injection or surgery.  And, neither was available before this vacation.

Since there was nothing I could do to make the “Pain Go Away”, my only option was to “Grin and Bare It” 

Wheelchair Transport Through the Airports

Since Hubby was not going, he ordered a wheelchair to transport me through the Orlando Airport.  This is a long walk through one terminal, a short train ride, and a longer walk through a second terminal.  Trust me the need for a wheelchair was the topic of more than one discussion in the days leading up to my departure.   Finally, I gave in.

My son picked me up at the Milwaukee Airport and we were off to meet-up with the daughters.  After the traditional hugs and kisses, they said, “Mama, you are limping.”  While the limp was noticeable, I am certain Hubby had telephoned with his concerns.

After discussing the pros and my cons of a wheelchair; I lost and they ordered one for the next leg of my trip.

When I arrived in Milwaukee, I was an “Unhappy Wheelchair Traveler”;  but, I left as the “Grumpy Wheelchair Traveler” as my 14-year-old grandson pushed me through the Milwaukee and Boston Airports.

Was it not just a few years ago that he depended on me to push him around in his stroller?  I was not ready for this.

Having someone push me around in a wheelchair was not a pleasant experience; and, I felt —

  • Stressed
  • Powerless
  • Depressed
  • Angry
  • Embarrassed

The Airline Flight

On the airplane and seated comfortably; I closed my eyes, breathed deeply, and let go of the negativity.

Through Self-Talk, Self-Awareness and Self-Acceptance; I embraced and accepted the gift of wheelchair transports from my hubby, son, two daughters and grandson.

No longer did I feel —

  • Stressed, I enjoyed Relaxing
  • Powerless, I gained Power
  • Depressed, I discovered Peace
  • Angry, I achieved Happiness
  • Embarrassed,  I reflected Pride

 A Few of My Favorite Mother-Daughter Vacation Photos – 2014

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The 14-Year-Old Grandson, CJ with His Friend – Lunch on the Ferry
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The Ferry Deck
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First Night. First Order of Business – Glass of Wine
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My Play Daughter from Another Mother, My Youngest Daughter, and Their Two Boys Playing Monopoly on a Rainy Day
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The Moms Won
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Could This Be The Reason The Moms Won At Monopoly? IPhones, IPADS, Laptops, X-Boxes, etc.? I’m Just Saying!!
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Main Street – Downtown Oak Bluff
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Oak Bluff Pier
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Love The Old Vintage Homes on Main Street – Downtown Oak Bluff – Facing the Atlantic Ocean
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Lunch on The Upper Deck of Nancy’s Seafood with Grandson, Two of His Friends and the Daughters
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Surprise from The Daughters – My Favorite Appetizer Before the Crab Leg, Lobster and Shrimp Boil
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The Grandson CJ – Adding Crab Legs to the Boil
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It’s Crab Boil Night – Because CJ Hates Seafood, He Had A Burrito. His Friend Enjoyed the Crab Let Boil and the Burrito.
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Relaxing and Sitting on The Oak Bluff Pier
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Look Up In The Sky – Air Force Helicopters Flying Over Prior to The President’s Vacation Visit in The Next Several Days.
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Beautiful Sunset View Sitting on The Front Porch
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Last Night. Busy Week. Grandson Massaging Mom’s Feet. He Is Special!!!
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Goodbye Rental House – See You In August 2015

Garden Art Ideas For Breast Cancer Healing

I plan to incorporate some of these enhancements into my Healing Garden. Grateful to Dawn over at Breast Cancer Yoga Blog for sharing.

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Breast Cancer Gardening Therapy - Garden Art

By Dawn Bradford-Lange, Co-founder of Breast Cancer Yoga.

Garden art should be included in all breast cancer healing outdoor gardens, small and large. Therapeutic healing art should encompass the widest possible amount of color with a variety of styles. Art can reflect many moods with texture, patterns and light. The garden art can range from the most delicate to the large and bold. When looking at spaces that change through the seasons it is important to have art that can also be moved to change the mood of that space.

Changing a space is the greatest challenge to a gardener and we recommend these three basis principles:

  • Dark to Light
  • Bare to the Intriguing
  • Ordinary to the Individual

Garden art can be original, creative, uplifting and bring long lasting delight. We recommend adding these four garden art ideas:

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